Breaking Up and Dating in the Digital Age, Part One


My relationship had lasted the length of about three Hollywood marriages but came to an ignominious end two weeks ago. 

Okay, that is perhaps a little dramatic (melodramatic?) but since I have been out of “the game” so long, I don’t know what to do next. 

I told one friend via email that day because I wasn’t coming into work. I was looking like a puffer fish and there was no way I would be able to clean myself up enough not to invite questions and pitying looks. Thank god I had some sick days left and a furlough day to take me into the weekend. 

But how do I let people know when I am still feeling vulnerable?


Relationship implosion aside, I started to let people know this past weekend. It was actually unintentional. We were at Polaris 24 and we were joking about looking for a SciFi Princess for my friend and I mentioned that I think I found a candidate for my SciFi Prince. 

To say that my life is not an open book may seem disingenuous since I write a blog which is out there for mass public consumption but I don’t advertise my identity- considering the hate mail I’ve received, safer to be anonymous. 

This week, I told some friends in person and via email and distracted them from the break-up with my crush. The crush surprised me but it has been cathartic. 

Then I changed my status on Facebook- somehow, that made it real, more real. Within five minutes I received my first messages and I have been flooded with offers to get loaded, sympathetic ears to bend and even an offer of tennis racquets (he works for Head and just so we are clear, I did not break my old one over his head). 

That was astonishing. I haven’t replied to anyone except my sister. My Mom and my brothers knew (my brothers have been helping me move stuff out of the ex’s) but I didn’t know how to tell her because I was (am) trying to come to terms with it. 

Changing my status on Facebook was akin to walking around the streets with a sandwich board declaring my singledom. 

I am finding it hard to wrap my head around this. In past break-ups (like there have been so many), people found out more organically (or were unaware of the relationship altogether) but maybe this is the new “organic”, I don’t know. 

I still haven’t told the person who introduced us in the first place. That is going to be a difficult conversation- maybe I’ll break it to her via email. 

Call me a chicken (after all, it is the animal year I was born in, according to the Chinese calendar, that is) but for self-preservation purposes, I may have to take the wimp’s way out.


~ by angryegg on July 21, 2010.

2 Responses to “Breaking Up and Dating in the Digital Age, Part One”

  1. While you change your status back to single I’m still patiently waiting for the day when I can finally change my to “In A Relationship” – I’m sure Henny Penny will be running wild because surely the sky will be falling if that day ever comes!

    Like I said yesterday – I’m always game for coffee or adult beverages. Let’s go trolling for men…preferably tall, skinny Brits who may or may not sparkle in the sunlight. 😉

  2. Bring it, my friend!

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