Bridesmaids, What Are They Good For?

I am not trying to be facetious (okay, maybe a little) but I was at a wedding where the attendants couldn’t have been more disinterested and all I could ask myself was “Why?”

Yes, it is an honour to be asked to stand up with the bride but why say yes when you are going to make it about you when it should be about the bride?

Or have things changed since I was a bridesmaid?

Maybe I am being too judgmental. Maybe I don’t know the whole story but what bridesmaids leave the wedding before the bride??? It’s not like they had small children to attend to or a sudden emergency to deal with. They were just tired!!!!

The guys who stood up with the groom left when the groom left. Why was the bride left to fend for herself?

I made a slightly disparaging comment about the early exit to a friend in the know and apparently this attitude started the moment they arrived at the bride’s hotel suite.

Correct me if I am wrong but aren’t the bridesmaids to cater to the bride? It can be frustrating, humiliating and very much like servitude but it can also be joyous and rewarding.

Yes, you may be asked to fetch and carry and do all sorts of crazy things (like hiking up a poufy dress so the bride can pee) but you don’t go to the bridal suite, park you butt on the couch and read a magazine! How is that going to help the bride relax and feel like she has a handle on the day? Is the idea not to alleviate stress rather than add to it?

All I could do was shake my head.

I was a little biased towards them from the moment we met. I found them to be self-possessed, disinterested know-it-alls but I made nice and tried to give them the benefit of the doubt. A wedding is a stressful time for everyone. I’ve been a bridesmaid a few times and you never get any recognition for the things you do but what heightened my ire?

The looks on their faces when they opened their respective gifts from the bride- absolutely priceless! I am a really bad actress and it wasn’t my style either but they could have at least feigned excitement and gratitude!!!

To reiterate, I don’t know the full story. All I have to go on is what I observed. Maybe this is just the way these girls treat each other….

Um, I’d rather be friendless.

But there I go again, being all judgey….


~ by angryegg on August 22, 2011.

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