Party Etiquette

People are thoughtless, I get that.

We are all fallible. Nobody’s perfect, least of all me.

But do you really have to talk about a planned outing in front of someone who has not been invited?

Am I being overly sensitive?

Am I being a cry-baby whiner about this?

It’s not that I really care about being excluded. After my initial “do I smell?” (not verbalized necessarily), I dismiss it.

I tend not to make a habit of spending time with people who don’t want to spend time with me. Is this my defense mechanism kicking into place?

Probably.

I have always been on the outside looking in and 99% of the time, I am fine with that.

I don’t have to be the centre of attention when I rule the world. I am comfortable being the puppet master behind the curtain. J

What got to me was that there was no shame in the way these people talked about what they were going to do while I stood there- not really knowing what was happening other than I was excluded.

As imperfect as I am, I would never talk about an upcoming (casual) get-together if someone was excluded- especially if it was with people in the office. It doesn’t matter whether or not I was the person organizing the outing, I just wouldn’t bring it up.

It’s just bad manners. You can have your clique and eat it too- just don’t be an ass about it.

Why make someone feel like sh!t?

If that is your intention, then good job- you likely succeeded.

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~ by angryegg on April 3, 2009.